Wednesday, January 2, 2019

A Kinky Reunion, An Anniversary & My New Years Resolution

A Happy New Year to you all!  May 2019 bring everyone the joy and happiness we all seek in our own lives and the personal wherewithal to make others not as fortunate as us happy as well.  Enough with selfishness!

We spent last Saturday evening (and the wee hours of Sunday morning) reuniting with some kinky friends of ours who we hadn't seen in quite a long time.  The little reunion wasn't quite full of the debauchery of days past.  Rather, it was more socializing with a few sensual and kinky twists mixed in for fun!

I did feel pretty special among the group as the only Dominant Female there.  Hubwife was also unique among the "men" in attendance, but felt right at home with the other submissive women.

I think the highlight of the evening was hubwife showing off her chastity cage to everyone.  I'd told them all about it through correspondence but we hadn't seen any of them in person since hubwife got locked on January 1, 2015.  Even though it was a few days early, we did have a premature celebration of "our" 4th chastity anniversary as a couple.  It's something we are both very proud of.

The men in the group can't believe I've kept hubwife locked as much as I have (over 98% of the time), insist on a daily chastity report and allowed her so few orgasms.  The submissive women?  They're worried their dominant husbands might consider locking them up!

I did get a chance to put the lovely "Nikki" over my lap for a bare bottom spanking with a paddle her master supplied, this only after she'd begged long enough to be disciplined by me.  The begging made her pretty wet, the spanking even wetter :)

There were a few other overt displays of dominance and submission, including corner time for two of the submissives but a lovely evening ended with the promise that somehow we would get together again.

Looking back on 2018 I was a little disappointed that I let hubwife have so many orgasms, notwithstanding the opinion of the dominant men in attendance on Saturday, and resolved to improve upon my performance in 2019.  Last year I let the little slut have more than one orgasm per month as I originally intended.  This year will be different.  I'm going to do my best to hold her orgasm count to single digits, somewhere between 1 and 9.

Beccy, my other submissive in chastity, is off to a pretty decent start.   She's self locked herself and sealed the keys to her "pee pee" device (that's the name I gave it instead of "pepper pot") in an
envelope.  She's going to be visiting us in a couple of weeks to deliver the keys to me and we'll have an official "sealing ceremony" of all the keys.   Beccy's visit could lead to a few other intimacies if she's a good gurl.

I might have a little orgasm competition between beccy and hubwife in 2019!

Amy's orgasms?  The lovely Amy can have as many as she wants....for now.

Ms. L

Saturday, December 29, 2018

New Year, New Loves & New Locks

Where has 2018 gone?  Where have I been?  What's been going on anyway?

What better way to bring you up to date than to share the holiday letter I sent to my kinky neighbors to the north?  They're long time friends, people we've played with in the past and enjoyed some sensual intimacies.  Four married couples, three of them with the "traditional" male dominant and and hubwife :)  Enjoy.

Some names and places have been changed to protect people's privacy.

Belated Joyeux Noel & Bonne Annee to my Kinky Canadian Friends!

Ok...that's enough French for now, unless it's the kissing type :)
This Christmas greeting comes late but it's not really out of character for me.  I've always been the deliberate and patient one of the bunch haven't I?

We arrived in NYC yesterday and made our way up to my sister's in xxxx on Long Island by early evening.  We will be leaving tomorrow and taking the ferry across the sound into CT and will be driving up to xxxx.  Both of us are very excited to get together with you on Saturday in xxxx.  It's been how many years??? 
How is George at xxxxxx?  It would be nice to go back to one of his fetish nights if they are still having them.  I'm sure we would be the oldest of the  And the "xxxx" it still in operation?  Despite the fun we had at those parties, the weekends we spent with all of you were much more fun and intimate.  We were so fortunate to have met you all!

And Karl?  When will you ever use that winter home you bought in xxxx?  It's only 2 hours from our place in the xxxx section of xxxx!  

This has been a wonderful year for us in sunny southern xxxx.  The family continues to "grow"....xxxx's twins turned two last October and they are a handful.  xxxxs little girl celebrated her first birthday in December and she broke the news to us on Christmas that baby number two is on the way...Due date is July 8!  I may be a grandma but I don't feel very contraire!
On a bit of a down note Paul, my lover of 4+ years, took a job at xxxx in Los Angeles in September.  We had a lovely weekend together (the three of us) before he departed and though we've stayed in touch have not been together since he left.  His departure was difficult and obviously left a void that Terrie cannot possibly fill (even if I allowed it) but somehow I've survived.
But for every door that closes, there always seems to be another one, two or in this case, even three that open.
Let me start with Door #1.  We are now the proud co-owners of a hair salon!  No, I haven't changed careers and though she's not fully practicing any more, neither has Terrie.  It's a long story as to how this all came about, but the short of it is that I decided to help my hairdresser (Amy) and her husband purchase a salon in xxxx.  The salon basically pays for itself.  During the summer months we break even but the fall and winter months are very busy seasons. 

Door #2 is equally exciting, but far more sexciting!  It's about hairdresser.  We're an "item" in, lovers.  With Paul's departure I had all this spare time on my hands!  What better way to fill it than with a lovely 30-something MILF.....and yes, I do fuck her as often as we can get together.  Her husband Don doesn't know about the little thing we have going.  Amy knows all about Terrie, how she's my "wife", the chastity, etc.  It's a nice little arrangement for now and Amy makes a wonderful submissive.  I've attached a picture of her.  A selfie she took just for me.  Don't you love those lips?
Door #3 is something very new for me...two submissives in chastity.  I'll get right to the point.  I am now the keyholder for one of Terrie's sissy gurlfriends.  beccy is a very attractive submissive CD who just happens to also be in the medical field.  I gave Terrie permission to meet her for coffee and you know me, I just couldn't help but stic my nose into their business and the next thing you know, beccy and me hit it off real well and I decided that, what's one more sissy in chastity to take control of?  I will officially become beccy's keyholder on January 1, 2019 which just happens to be Terrie's fourth chastity anniversary!  I won't officially lock her on January 1.  beccy will do the honors herself, send me a picture of her locked up along with pictures of the two keys in sealed signed envelops.  She will deliver one of the envelopes to me in mid January.  We shall see how it goes :)  beccy's picture is attached as well.  Not bad eh? 
Of course, Terrie is taking all this like the good sissy cuckold wife that she is.  My love for her continues to grow each day, as does her devotion to me :)  Terrie is also looking forward to spending time with the other girls in when we're in Burlington.  I should have brought a maids outfit for the trip.  I'm sure we can find something for her to wear if time
I cc'd the lovely Nicole on this email since Mark is the only Dominant who seems to allow his submissive to receive  I hope "nikki" is doing well and if the opportunity presents itself, I certainly wouldn't mind having her over my lap for one sound spanking just for old time's sake! 
Karl & John...if Celine and Sue are giving you any problems, I'd be happy to offer the same service at no charge!
Looking forward to seeing you all so very soon!
Linda & Terrie

So there you have it.  These pages have been a little dark and quiet.  Me?  I've been keeping myself busy.

Stay tuned.  I plan to enjoy my babygirl Amy very much and 2019 and I take my key holder responsibility very, very seriously

Ms. L

Tuesday, October 30, 2018

We'll Never Know.....

Had a conversation with a male submissive last week sometime about the long term effects of male chastity.  This particular submissive is rather well endowed and I made the following comment:

"Not all submissive CD's deserve to be locked in chastity.  You're exhibit A."
He tried to dismiss my flattery, playing like he didn't know what I meant but he wasn't very successful.  He took pleasure in my comment and I could tell he was as proud as a peacock!
He not-so-innocently asked "Why?"

My response was that "Long term chastity causes atrophy of the penis."  I went on to tell him that it might be a waste if his own penis would suffer from that fate. 

Specifically, I said "I wouldn't want that to happen to yours."

He had a rather interesting response:
"I'm not sure that really happens - at least not long term, from what I've read. It might temporarily, but once unlocked for a while it returns to it's original state."
Our discussion went on from there.  I know a little bit about human physiology, more than most people, but other than my own first-hand experience with hubwife, don't have much data or experience with long term chastity.  I mentioned to the submissive that the operative words in his premise were "once unlocked for a while."

There's some truth to his hypothesis.  I suppose if a penis that has been locked up for a long time is set free and not put back in the cage, eventually it will be able to have a full erection again.  At the same time, while a host of other factors come into play, there's likely to be a "point-of-no-return" where a man's penis will never regain what's been lost.

Hubwife's been locked up since January 1, 2015 (actually, she was locked on New Year's Eve before we went to a party), just about full time; more than 99% of the time if you're interested. When the clock strikes midnight on December 31st of 2018, hubwife will be beginning her fifth year of chastity.

I suppose I could unlock her and keep her that way for a reasonable amount of time to see how long it might take for her to have full erections (full for her, they were never very impressive) again.  But I have no intentions of doing that.

I guess we'll just never know :)

Miss L

Wednesday, October 24, 2018

Doing Just Fine Thank You!

I haven't had sex with a man in more than a month and a half.   Since September 2nd to be exact.  My lover moved to Los Angeles  and though we've kept in touch some we haven't met for any sex and don't have any plans to do so in the near future.

Since then, it's been "sex with the sissy" and "Amy."  Amy is my lovely new submissive baby girl who happens to be twenty years my junior.  Yes, I'm rocking the cradle and loving it. 

Like finding a male lover to cuckold hubwife, this initiative took some time to come together.  It's been worth the wait.

So all is well and I'll be writing more soon.

Ms. L

Monday, September 17, 2018

Leash Laws

Last week was busy with little time to blog.  This weekend we got to escape to our ocean getaway but there was a wedding there to attend.  A nice little church wedding that was followed by a lovely evening reception outdoors on the ocean. 

We're staying a few extra days to enjoy the water and sunshine and this morning I was up early for a run along the beach.  Running in the sand is good for you but hubwife doesn't like it.  Too bad for her.  I do what it takes to make sure she stays in shape.

The beach has leash laws though they don't always seem to be strictly enforced.  Just in case I thought it would be fun to have hubwife run along with me while wearing her collar.  I ran with the leash rolled up around one of my hands.  There weren't many early birds out and in the course of the 5 or so miles we rand the beach was pretty deserted on this Monday morning.  I though about attaching the leash to her collar so we could run attached to one romantic. 

No one seemed to notice the leash while on our run.  The elevator ride up to our condo on the 10th floor was a different story.  I opted to take the elevator from the underground garage since it has an entrance from the beach level of our property.  There, two women around my age and a young man were also waiting.  Once on the elevator, it made a stop on the ground level where another younger couple got on. 

We were the last two off on 10 after the elevator made stops on 3, 6 and 9.  No one said anything but one of the two women who got off on 9 smiled at us as she left.  Once the doors slid shut I looked at hubwife and smiled.  "She knew" I told her.  Hubwife was blushing a little.

She took the collar off to shower but I made her put it back on immediately after.  Maybe she'll be wearing it all day.

Miss L

Sunday, September 9, 2018

Lifestyle Changes?

My lover's moved away to take advantage of an excellent career opportunity, leaving me with somewhat of a void in my eclectic sex life.  I'm going to miss his companionship and sexual skills but it's far from the end of the world.  He was indeed a very virile and effective lover but his departure doesn't find me actively seeking a similar replacement.  Finding the right man to serve as a "bull" in a femdom/cuckolding dynamic is very difficult.  I'm not sure I'm up to such a time consuming effort. 

For now, I'm going to make do with what I have.  And it seems that for every opportunity door that closes, one or more seems to open.  One of those doors is opened "just a crack" right now but it could lead to a very different type of cuckolding that what hubwife is used to.  We'll see....

In the meantime I'm enjoying hubwife's services on this lazy Sunday.  She's dressed very scantily this morning in a frilly white apron and heels and nothing else with the exception of her chastity cage.  She doesn't know it but I'm going to fuck her today.  Maybe more than once.  She'll be locked in her cage and she may even get to orgasm from the lovemaking.  If she does, it'll be her second orgasm for September.

I'm getting pretty lenient in my old age.

Miss L

Sunday, August 26, 2018

Sunday Femdom

Even on weekdays Femdom gets an early start here.  Hubwife makes the coffee and performs other intimate tasks I might require after my first cup of strong black coffee. 

Saturdays are a little more relaxed but she's usually got quite a few domestic duties to get done here and for a close friend of mine.  It's typically a busy day for hubwife.

But Sundays usually start this way after I've had sufficient caffeine.

Hubwife's due plenty of credit.  His lips and tongue are always eager.

Miss L.

Thursday, August 23, 2018

Just Another Pretty Face

I just have the urge for a good oral worshiping right now. 

A dutiful male in his rightful place would feel so good in the middle of a workday.

So what if I feel he's just another pretty face?

Ms. L

Monday, August 20, 2018

Who's Happier?

Came across this picture and I reblogged it on my own Tumblr:

Hubwife is probably as submissive as "they" come but, I can't say for sure that being in chastity and not having as many orgasms as she used to is what turns her on the most.

Editors note:  Chastity does not prevent orgasms.  Most submissives in chastity probably have cum while caged, either on their own or with assistance from someone else.

However, there's also plenty of enjoyment on the part of the Dominant Keyholder as well.  It's a different type of enjoyment, more cerebral for the most part, but it's present nonetheless.

Of course, we can make it physical if we want to.

Ms. L

Friday, August 17, 2018

Sexy Secrets

"He what?" my older sister responded.

"He wears panties.  All the time.  Every day" I repeated what I'd just told her, with a slight emphasis on "all the time" and "every day."

"Oh.  And he enjoys that?  What about you?" she asked.  Quite honestly, she didn't look as shocked as I thought she would and suspected she knew the answers already.

"He does and so do I" I said, intentionally keeping my answer short and to the point.  I figured she'd eventually ask some questions so I didn't say much more.  A few seconds later I added "And if you're okay with it, I'd like you to refer to him as her, and he as she.

"That's fine" she said with little hesitation.

There was a period of silence as we sipped some ice tea on her front porch facing Long Island Sound just a little more than a month ago. Just before the silence became awkward, she posed the first of many questions.

And so it went.  She knows almost everything about us.  My dominance over hubwife, her dressing, that we're in a Female Led Relationship, I have a lover and other things. 

We were always the closest of the siblings.  Distance and time lessened that closeness a bit, but not a great deal.  Sharing this secret with my older sister has brought us closer together; as close as we've ever been.

She's visiting us this week and leaving on Monday or Tuesday.  She arrived early in the week while other family members came in yesterday and some today.  While she's been here, hubwife has been able to dress the way she always does at home and act the way I expect her to act.  Her duties haven't changed.  The housework is getting done the way I want it and she's also cleaning up after my sister, including making the bed in the guest bedroom and picking up after her.

She's also doing all the laundry including hand-washing my sister's panties and other lingerie.

She's enjoying the attention and I'm glad I told her about us.

Ms. L

Wednesday, August 8, 2018

Feminization -Two Sub Males' Points of View

A follower of mine on Tumblr asked me the following question:

I am quite curious about your use of the terms "hubwife" and referring to "her" It's all aesthetic, but to me women are the top rung on the ladder and I appreciate when it is pointed out or emphasized.... so when a male is "feminized" through physical appearance or by use of terminology it seems like more a mockery of the greater sex than it is a humbling of the male. I was curious as to how you think of it?
It's a very fair question.  After all, if women who think themselves (or their sex) superior, why would feminize.  Of course, I had my own concise answer to the question, but I thought it would be interesting to hear what a submissive male thought about it.

I gave a submissive male I know (not hubwife) an assignment to answer the question in 500 words.  Here's what Danielle had to say:

When a submissive male is feminized he/she is being told or shown that they are no longer viewed as male. For many men this is humiliating, humiliation which has nuances to it that add layers broader than simply indicating that he/she is being stripped of their masculinity and is being viewed as the "weaker" sex. The connotation of the humiliation and subsequent D/s dynamic at play arising solely from the connotation of a female identity being seen as "weaker" is perplexing and challenging for many women and submissive men who view women as the superior gender. To me feminizing a male through either appearance or terminology is less a comment on female identity than it is a statement against male identity. 
Being feminized is humiliating to me in ways which speak to my perceived and sub/conscious insecurities about my shortcomings as a man. I am being shown that I have not succeeded as a man, that I have failed in attaining the male identity which society subscribes to and which I have been struggling to obtain for my entire life. I am not being told that I have reached the heightened identity or rarefied air of a sacred feminine identify, but rather a female identity that represents the societal dichotomy to the male identity - an idealized male identity which I have been struggling to keep up the appearance of obtaining and especially struggling to embrace, accept and identify with personally in my own life and private thoughts.
But this feminizing is also tender, intimate and comforting. For me. It's a woman seeing through my facade, accepting my false male identity by embracing it and having the loving authority to free me of the burden of my struggle of trying to live up to it. She is letting me know that she doesn't recognize me as a man in the traditional, societal sense and that she accepts me anyway. That she sees value and purpose for me in an identity which I am more well-suited for. A woman is demonstrating her superiority/dominance to me through her intelligence, understanding and control. And there is humiliation in this for me, not malicious harmful humiliation, but vulnerable, intimate humiliation - my walls being broken down and removed at someone else's direction.
A man may also be feminized by another man. And again, the gender reversal at play is (for me) more about the dichotomy of the identity of the submissive male being reversed, as opposed to a female identity being viewed as inferior. To me, the female identity being inherently superior actually makes a submissive male having his gender identity reversed even more humiliating as it signifies that she/he came up short of meeting even the requirements of the lesser (male) gender. Again, this feminizing of a presumed submissive male is, to me, more intimate and comforting and any aspect of humiliation associated with it is based around what is lacking from the male identity, not implying that a female gender identity is inferior.
Dom/mes, switches and subs of any gender are welcome to comment.

Ms. L

Thursday, August 2, 2018

Hooked on Obedience

Lifted this from the Tumblr site Obey Your Wife:

Men cannot resist their own brain chemistry.

As a woman asserts more & more control over her male partner … blurring the line between her sexual power in the bedroom and her authority in their everyday life … he can only fall deeper under her spell. It is inevitable: his body and mind will succumb to dependency. 

He will welcome it with a smile. Because a hooked man is a happy man: both inside the bedroom and out. 

✓ Physically addicted to her sex.
✓ Intoxicated by the nectar of her pussy.
✓ Mentally conditioned to crave her dominance.


I have to agree, and I like the progression.

Ms. L

Wednesday, August 1, 2018

Pussy Free?

I've written before on how it's been years since hubwife's little penis was allowed inside me.  I don't miss it.  Hubwife's attempts at trying to please me like a real man were, on her better days, frustrating at best.  My only regret is that I wish I'd marked the calendar the last time I let her make love to me "that way."  It would have been a significant date to remember and even celebrate.

Despite my denying hubby access to certain parts of my anatomy with her clitty-penis, I don't consider her "pussy free" like this tumblr photo implies:

I'm not going to even try to put a percentage number on it, but I'll venture to say that my hubwife gets much more pussy than the average husband.

She gets all the pussy I want to give her.  And I love offering it up to her.  

She just gets it in a different way.

Ms. L